Do you constantly feel the grass is greener on the other side of the fence? Other women you work with or maybe the other school mum’s or your old school chums, THEY seem to have it ALL! They get the great career breaks, have the perfect children, partner, teeth, wardrobe – well you get the picture.
This is something I see constantly, it’s endemic amongst smart professional women, they torture themselves by comparing themselves and their lives to others, finding a plethora of perceived shortcomings by comparison. Smart Intelligent, beautiful women with much to give the world, are playing small, selling themselves short and beating themselves up, moment by moment, across the globe. It’s heart breaking to witness.
Comparison is the death knell to your enthusiasm, your dreams, your vitality, self confidence and self belief – don’t you think it’s time to STOP IT!
Who would you be without it? What if you could just be present to your own magnificence and be able to celebrate the same in others? How different would your day to day experience be if you stopped mentally berating yourself for your perceived shortcomings and just got on with living your big full beautiful life?
AND Guess what?
While you’re popping those women up on your perfection pedestal, the same game is going on inside their heads too. Give it up, NOW, it’s such a waste of your valuable time and energy! It’s a waste of YOU! You have much to contribute to this world, stop robbing us of your magnificence.
Who would you be if you stopped comparing yourself to others and started using the energy to live your life, on your terms?
Start to Break the Cycle
1. Ask 3 -5 people closest to you to provide you with a list of 5 or more things they admire about you or see as your positive attributes. Choose a variety of individuals from those you love to those you lead.
2. Consolidate the list and pop it somewhere you can see it. Put a couple of your favourites on a card in your wallet, so each time you go to pay for something you’re reminded of how fabulous you really are.
3. Notice each time you launch into comparing yourself to someone else, be GENTLE with yourself and just remind yourself that you’re choosing not to do that any more. All you need to do is acknowledge that you’re seeing something fabulous in another person which now becomes your opportunity to acknowledge something fabulous about you too.
It’s takes a little time and commitment to break the comparison cycle and it’s well worth the effort. (Another article that may help you can be found here before you head off to check that out leave us your insights below)
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