‘I’d dearly love some ME time, but it always seems to come last on the list’
Does this sound or feel familiar? Many women struggle with the notion of time for themselves being important enough to take priority in their busy schedules. They put their career and those they love before themselves, deeming it selfish to do otherwise. As a result they often feel tired and even resentful, that their need for personal time is not being met, and at the same time guilty for having such a ‘selfish’ thought.
So lets look at a less emotional example.
When the fuel light in your car starts to flash red, what do you do? My bet is you pull into the very next service station to put fuel in your car. You know from experience that your car doesn’t go anywhere without fuel. You don’t berate the car for being selfish when it requires refueling, you know it’s essential to continue on your journey.
So when did you decide that refueling your tank was selfish? I bet you find you have more energy to power your life and everything that’s important to you, when you take time to recharge and renew. Then maybe a better term for taking time out for you might be Empowered Selfishness, the time you take for yourself as an investment in who you truly want to BE in your life. There is plenty of evidence that we have more to give those we lead and those we love, if we have a full tank ourselves. We’re more patient, productive and focused.
The key to being successful as a leader (parent, partner, friend), believe it or not, is learning to be selfish with your time! Yes the empowered kind of selfish, it’s a necessity. So what is it going to take for you to adapt this concept into your life?
Firstly, you might want to decide what Empowered Selfishness looks like for you?
Is it a morning routine that sets you up for the day ahead? This could include meditation, exercise, quite time on the back step with a cup of tea and your journal or even making time to enjoy breakfast.
Maybe it’s a health routine which could include exercise, ensuring you eat regular meals that provide energy or is it making time for social connection with friends or time to have a massage, or even just laying on the grass watching the clouds drift by.
For Your Consideration:
What would your life be like if you felt empowered to take time out for you? What kind of difference would that make to how you showed up in other areas of your life, your relationships, your parenting, your career for example?
We’d love to hear your thoughts and how you exercise empowered selfishness in your life